Confidence in dating can be tricky because there is a difference between feeling good and having true confidence. I’ve seen a lot of women reading Abraham Hicks’ books about the importance of feeling good, but that isn’t the best way to build true confidence in dating. Please let me explain.

The Myth

Don’t get me wrong. I don’t have anything against Abraham Hicks. I think it’s very important to feel good because the Law of Attraction is all about feeling good before good things happen in your life. However, I’ve met many women who feel good, but they never take action to implement what they’ve read in the book. Consequently, their love lives haven’t been changed yet, not to mention their true confidence in dating. This is something that most people don’t want to talk about, but it’s an uncomfortable fact.

The Truth

Because your external confidence can dramatically influence your internal confidence, you’d better start from appearing confident. Throughout my research over the years, I’ve discovered that the No. 1 quality men look for in a woman is cleanliness. That means daily soap and water, toothpaste, toothbrush, nailbrush, shampoo, laundry detergent, etc. These things are all cheap and it only takes a small amount of time to be clean every day.

Ginie Sayles once said,

“Clean is something that you can afford, and it’s easy. Just about every man I’ve studied respond to cleanliness more than to figure, facial features or education.”

what is more…

Indeed, the first sign of loss of morale is the loss of self-care because lack of self-care indicates loss of control, whether from alcoholism, emotional issues, or other self-esteem problems.

Life has ups and downs. Sometimes the only thing you can control is your own self-care. Eventually, by controlling self-care, other things in your life fall into place.

Happy dating to everyone.