Finding love for the second time is always an introspective journey. This is especially the case if you are coming off of a bad heartbreak, after divorce, or the loss of your significant other. You are no doubt wrestling with many emotions, all while trying to piece your life back together and begin anew. Don’t let fear get in the way of your happiness, you can move forward and find love again.
Finding love after heartbreak is possible.
Letting Go and Moving On
Before you can even start thinking about starting a new relationship you need to make sure you have dealt with the issues from your last one. Losing somebody that you love, no matter how it happens, can have a domino effect in our lives.
You may have stopped trusting people. You may think that your allocated happiness in life is all used up. You may be, simply put, sad. All of these things are okay, and you should allow yourself the time to grieve your loss.
Cry if you need to. Be angry. Accept that whoever you meet next, will not replace the person you lost. Know that you are strong. That you are capable. That you can move on without guilt, and give yourself the chance to find happiness again. Whatever happened in the past may not have been in your control, but this next step is all you – and you can do it.
Find happiness in yourself, and then find happiness in another.
Put In Some ‘ME’ Time
The next thing you need to do is start building yourself up again. Whether you need a self-esteem boost or a new hairstyle, it is time to invest in yourself.
Pick up a new hobby or join a class to learn something new. Go back to school, back to work, or focus on anything that you have been putting on the back burner in your life. It is important that you get back on your feet and feel confident in yourself. You deserve to put 100% towards your new beginning, because chances are you haven’t been doing that for some time.
This is also the perfect opportunity to get out there and socialize. Call up your friends and go out for a night of cocktails and dancing. Check out the latest exhibit at your favorite gallery with your old art buddies. Once you have control, once you have your confidence, nothing is stopping you from finding a future with someone special.
Dating again can be scary, but it is also a lot of fun.
Give Yourself a Second Chance
Even after moving on and getting back to a normal life, dating can dredge up guilt and old pain all over again. Know that it will get easier as you go. Feel free to take things slow, and don’t forget you are in control so you don’t need to do anything you aren’t ready for.
Not sure where to start? Friends of friends are always a good starting point; meeting new people in a social setting amongst friends can ease the beginner jitters. Online dating is also a good option, giving you some control over the type of people you meet- before you meet them.
Once you have secured a date, don’t be afraid to mention your past. While you certainly shouldn’t treat your date as a therapist, there is nothing wrong with letting them know where you are coming from. Before you know it, you’ll find that special person who will hold your heart once again.
Can you find love the second time around? The truth is, love is already waiting.
Author Bio: Jessica Galbraith is a full-time writer and author of the travel blog The Fly Away American. She spends her free-time working on her online reputation through social media and networking
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